Hi friends. Welcome back for another edition of Transformation Tuesday, where I talk about all things in this healthy living lifestyle. I’ve hit a plateau in weight loss which I knew would be coming since I’m getting down to a healthy weight anyway. But, I’ve still got about 7 lbs to go and I’m not giving up!
This is a tough topic because we all have food loves and food issues. But, what I want to talk about today is the importance that community plays in your weight loss journey. I’ve been involved in weight watchers several times, and that has shown me how helpful it is to have people around you that have the same goals. This applies in many different avenues in life: parenting, job related skills, creative outlets, runners groups, etc.
Why is this the case?
- Motivation. I have found when I have people around me who have similar lifestyle and health goals it is easier to pursue my goals. I think that is one reason I knew that my mister was on the one for me. Now my mister does not have trouble with weight and can eat anything. But, he likes healthy foods (and still eats what I bake) and he always wants to be active. We love to hike together, even now with our boys, and he could eat grilled salmon and other whole foods ALL THE TIME. For me, I knew I didn’t want to marry someone who really struggled with their weight. I needed someone who could spiritual and actively lead me in this area because I knew it was a stronghold in my life. Just like if you have money spending issues, you don’t want to marry someone who also has a heavy hand when it comes to credit cards. I love that we pursue an active and healthy life together – and still enjoy some summer ice cream cones and celebratory food days too. So, when it comes to friends, it is easier for me to surround myself with people with similar interests and goals: active lifestyle people, healthy cooking, knowledge of their bodies and why we should take care of them. Not that you can’t go out and have a cookie together – but not letting one cookie lead to indulging every day in baked sweets. Another example: if you are an alcoholic, if you are trying to break the addiction, you don’t want to hang out with other people who drink too much.
- Challenge. I am a competitive person, we’ve talked about that before. Right now, I have a “bet” going on with a friend in another state. She asked me to help her with accountability so that’s what we are going to do. But, we have the same goal weight number in mind for a short term goal and we weigh the exact same thing. So, I asked her if we could put a wager on it: whoever gets their first gets a 10$ gift card from other to Target. Perfect! Game on! I love people who push me in running. When I started running, I had three friends who were so pivotal in that: Sarah, Sloan, and Sarah (another one). I was single and could run anytime I wanted, but it was good to have running buddies and people to do races with. I don’t have that here. I miss that. I do love running by myself, but I don’t have anyone locally to challenge me in that area. In every area I’ve lived since I’ve had athletic people around me to challenge me and help me succeed – that is something I desire here as well. Its important.
- Encouragement. One of the nicest things a family member said to me when I first lost a TON of weight back in college was absolutely transformational for me. But the comment that got me to a point in life that I knew I needed to lose the weight was awful and I remember it to this day. I want to encourage others, not make people feel bad about themselves. I want to push people to meet their goals in weight loss. I want to keep them on the right track. I want to help them see the spiritual side of the struggle of weight loss and taking care of our bodies in a God-glorifying manner (I’ve got a book in the works if anyone wants to publish it.) I find even a simple text or a note to accomplish this. A friend and I text almost every day to see how we are doing eating and exercising. It is good accountability. And if we have had a bad day – we don’t yell at each other in all caps: we tell ourselves that the next meal is a new chance to be healthy – and get to that gym – even for 15 minutes. I can not tell you enough how much positive reinforcement helps in this area. My mister has learned this. I often am a comfort food eater. He has learned not to criticize me in that moment, but talk to me gently and help me to see other ways of coping with whatever is going on – and if I do still mess up, he forgives me quickly and champions me in ways I’m being healthy and meeting my goals.
