“I gradually began to understand more fully that he was not a problem to be addressed, not the sum of his behavioral performance. His worth to God was not about his ability to fulfill other people’s expectations or act according to accepted norms. Instead he was a beloved child of the Father with a specific role to play in God’s ongoing story of redemption.”
The Fall is a special time for our family. We celebrate two birthdays and a wedding anniversary within 3 weeks time.
To say that I thrive in parenting would be far from the truth. I have to tell myself everyday who I am in God’s sight, how He has equipped me to parent the exact boys I’ve been wonderfully given, and how I’m not like all the other moms out there.
When we compare our momselves to other moms – we are not lavishing hospitality – welcoming, grace – on ourselves or our children. When we play the comparison game, get caught in its trap, we do such a disservice to our hearts. And that in turn, doesn’t allow us to love our children well either.
To show lavish hospitality to our children is welcoming them just as they are. Not only when they are obedient, or loving, or going to bed on time. But, I’ve found for me, when I’m stressed about not being a good mom (because I’ve listened to other things besides the Word of God), I take out my unworthiness on my kids.
Let’s show lavish hospitality to ourselves and our children by staying out of the comparison trap!